lighting a candle for Caroline Flack

After hearing about Caroline Flack’s death yesterday and many other cases of people suffering from mental health, it infuriates me a lot when people kick others when they’re down or are not supportive when times are tough for them.

This affects me deeply, especially when people who I don’t know are going through this, and they feel they have no one to talk to. I wish I could stretch my arm out and help them find the light at the other side of the tunnel. 

I know what it feels like to be kicked when I’m down – I’ve had that many times due to my Autism. I’ve been picked on many times in the past for coming across a bit different to other school kids, for example. I probably talked slower and it took me longer to process the world around me. Instead of giving me the time to settle in, I felt humiliated in some cases and felt like I was no good to anybody.

I had the same feelings when I went into my first job after University. Instead of getting the adjustments and training I needed, again, I was humiliated in front of the whole office and felt useless. Luckily though, I have my amazing family and friends who are willing to listen to me talk about my issues and help me get through them. And in 2020, I feel happier than I’ve ever been in my life.

However, the experiences I’ve had in the past make it hurt that little bit more when I hear stories like Caroline Flack’s and those of many other great people, whether they’re celebrities or not.

We all make decisions that we regret and put us into certain situations. Whether it’s through impulse, anger, desperation or misunderstandings. Now, we all know what happened in Caroline Flack’s situation, but I’ve been there and so have you.

Therefore, doesn’t this mean that we should relate to each other and be supportive, rather than using it as fuel to attack? I don’t know what it feels like to be trolled on social media, but it must get to a point where you think your mistake is the worst thing you could have possibly done when it really isn’t.

Time moves on though, and we’ll happily move on with our lives. But poor people like Caroline Flack and others don’t get that opportunity now because they felt this way and because of others making them feel humiliated and useless.

I didn’t want to ever write this, but what happened yesterday for me was the final straw, and I feel more determined to help people with mental health issues by sharing my own experience and feelings. I really hope that in writing this it will make you think before you attack others as you truly don’t know what they’re going through.

It’s human nature to feel depressed if others are putting you down and then kick you whilst you’re on the canvas, so use this as a wake-up call.


  1. So true I believe that the people who kick u when you are down, They have there own issues bit won’t admit them.So they think its ok to bully other people to make themselfs feel better!

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